What Went Wrong? Part 2

In What Went Wrong? Part 1 I discussed my ex's  insecurities and the effect that they had on our relationship. In Part 2, I will discuss his lack of compassion.

I consider my daughter's father (we've been apart for about four years) as the first man that showed me no compassion. When we first started dating, I admired him and every thing that I did said that he was my king. Simply put, I was being submissive to him without any type of ring. No promise ring, no engagement ring, and definitely no wedding ring. Instead of him welcoming my affection and my admiration, he ridiculed me for displaying my emotions by making rude comments like "why are you on me" when I would try to cuddle with him and "go some where" when I would try to sit next to him.

When me and my most recent ex begin to date, he was compassionate and my heart begin to soften because I thought that he actually loved me like I loved him. I was WRONG! As our relationship progressed and we moved in together (a really bad move) his mask came off and I begin to see him for who he really was...a controlling and confident-less man.

Below are a couple eye opening situations that I experienced with him: 
1. He would say "I don't care how you feel" during arguments. Of course he would apolo-lie (a fake apology) after the argument, but those words stuck with me and the more he would say them, the more I believed that my feelings were not of his concern.
2. When I would break down and cry, he would say "Woman up" instead of embracing me and making an attempt to figure out what was wrong. My tears also appeared to fuel his anger towards me and as I witnessed this, my heart begin to harden again.
3. When I wasn't having sexual intercourse with him as often as he wanted me to, he would make statements like "Don't be mad if I have sex with someone else." Note: I was working 40 hours a week, taking care of my daughter, and I had just begin my master's program - BUT, I was still cooking every other day and thoroughly cleaning our house weekly. (That wasn't good enough though)

The above listed actions occurred repeatedly throughout our year long relationship and I stayed because I didn't want another failed relationship. I wanted that one to work so bad that I tolerated things that I knew I should have not tolerated.

 I was in love with being in love rather than in love with my mate.